Whether we ask for it or not, our friends, family, and even strangers are quick to offer parenting advice. Don’t get me wrong, I welcome it most of the time. However, there are times when I want to punch that person in the face! Ironically, it is usually the older (uh hem, MUCH older) generations that do more harm than help - for me anyway. It’s like they are so far removed from that stage of life, their memories are diluted with rainbows, butterflies and babies that never, ever cried. For instance, my grandma – bless her heart – is always offering me “suggestions.” “Why is she crying? She must be hungry. When was the last time you fed her? She probably has gas, did you burp her? Give her some Milacon. Maybe she’s too hot. Maybe she’s too cold.” And I swear she said all that in one breath. Finally I just said, “Maybe she’s just a baby and babies cry sometimes!”
Anyway, parenting advice can be helpful – but we do need to take it with a grain of salt.
I think the best parenting advice I got is:
IT GETS BETTER and YOU DO FORGET.
Gianna usually goes to sleep right after her last feeding (around 7pm). Last night, she proceeded to scream until 9:30pm. She was fed. She was changed. She was bathed. Her gums were lathered in Orajel. I was at a loss! This is about the point when I start to cry. Thad said, “What if you just let her cry?” I said, “I would be the worst mom ever.” Cool as a cucumber he added, “Sarah, do you remember when Ben used to do this?” I said, “Yea.” He told me to name a specific time. “That one Christmas at your parents’ house.” I retorted. He said, “Okay, how about another time?” He asked. I thought for a moment. The truth was, I couldn’t remember another time! I remember he used to cry it out often, but it is a foggy memory at best.
So, whenever I’m on the brink of tears I just have to remember – this doesn’t last forever, it gets better, and I probably won’t remember this moment that made me want to Google orphanages. Haha!
What is the best
parenting advice you’ve ever received?